We learn in the book of Job that sometimes there is a reason for our afflictions. We can also see in John 9:3 (
"It was neither that this man sinned, nor his parents sinned; but it was so that the works of God might be displayed in him.") sometimes our afflictions are put there for reason that may only be known to God.
Ask yourself is looking for reasons and answers to your suffering, where does your mind usually run? And when you come up with your conclusions are they shaped biblically or around your feelings or the feelings of others? Is there any way that you can look at your situation and see that someday God may be glorified by it?